TOXIC RELATIONSHIP

Are you in relationships that are unhealthy?

When you are in the middle of this relationship, it is often difficult to see how detrimental the relationship is to your self-esteem.

A toxic person is anyone, including yourself, who manages to drag you down, make you feel angry, worn out, deflated, belittled or confused. Toxic relationships have pervasive and repetitive patterns of actions and attitudes that result in tearing yourself or someone down or inhibiting a person’s or your own growth. The toxicity of your relationships with others is driven by the toxicity of the relationship with have with yourself.

Lots of people are in emotionally destructive patterns with each other and it is easy to blame the other for your own behavior. Usually destructive relationships contain all sorts of garbage half-truths, denials, etc. By bringing what has been hidden into the light, you can begin to weed truth from falsehood and begin your healing process.

How do you know if your relationship experiences "normal ups and downs" or is mired in abusive, toxic patterns? Determining the health of your most important relationships is the first step toward creating a happier life for yourself and those you surround yourself with.

It may be difficult for you to admit you are in a toxic relationship, because you are an intelligent, self-sufficient individual in other aspects of your life. If you are in toxic relationships, however, you have the sense that something is just not right.

These patterns that are always destructive: abuse of any kind, overbearing/overprotectiveness, overdependency and demanding to be the center of attention, deception of the other, and chronic indifference, neglect, or disdain.

When you are in a toxic relationship – as with many toxic substances – there are many signs that may suggest you need an internal healing.

The necessity of letting go as a key element of gain and growth. Letting go of fears, distorted expectations, entitlements, negative mood, lies about self, etc. Many things that trap you have to do with what you hang on to. The biggest step is believing that there are choices and options.

by:

Dr. T. Aaron Lim, a native of Malaysia, is a graduate of St. Francis' Institution, Malaysia; College of Agriculture, Malaysia (now Universiti Putra Malaysia); Louisiana State University, USA; University of Hawaii, USA and Chaminade University of Honolulu, USA. He is a former professor at Brigham Young University-Hawaii, USA.

Born and raised in the ancient philosophies of the Orient and trained in the modern sciences of the West, Dr. Aaron has a unique talent of bridging the traditions of East and West. He has been serving and teaching health, personal development and spiritual growth for over 30 years. As a dynamic speaker and educator, he uses his multiple talents to help others reach their fullest potential.